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My co worker and friend Carmen #1
slywelder Steve Yandoli new york, USA	Posted: July 12, 2012 11:08PM Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 3,577

A truly nice man,he bored me with the same stories he told at lunch over and over,but i listened anyway. He never had a bad word for anybody. One day we were doing some repair work on the ship,he cut a plate for me to weld and it was wrong,he cut it again it was to big,cut it again the wrong angel,cut it once more now it had a huge gap. I started yelling at him i was mad in a bad mood,i threw it in the water. He laughed and i knew it was his way of getting me to get over being pissed about something. He was simply a nice man who worked hard all his life. He got diagnosed with some cancer after my wife did. His did not seem so bad,we were all hopeful for him. He was 62 and decided to retire, he use to call my wife up on the phone and ask for me as a excuse but really i think to talk to her about what she was going through. He went from not so bad to bad to worse. His wife told me he had hospice care at home and he passed away the other day.He never got to enjoy his retirement. I told my wife today about him,she did'nt say much,i guess there isnt much to say. But sometimes i feel life isnt fair and as i sit here alone at midnight its hard to shed a tear for him. I'll remember him for what he was,a good man. He was a big guy with these huge hands and he was like a ox even when he was older,but yet he was gentle and kind. When i was at work and i got the call my father was close to death all my emotions came up to the surface about the hard feeling between us and how it would never be fixed. It was at lunch time and i got angry and then i could not control my emotions for a few minutes,i at first felt embarraesed in front of carmine but it was his kindness in that moment that put me at ease. Rest in piece my friend

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Re: My co worker and friend Carmen #2
slywelder Steve Yandoli new york, USA	Posted: July 12, 2012 11:13PM Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 3,577

Excuse me i meant to say its hard not to shed a tear for him,i guess i cant even type straight,its late and i been thinking of this guy most of the day

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Re: My co worker and friend Carmen #3
wyatt Wyatt W penguin point, drift ice, Antarctica 1958 Alfa Romeo Giulietta 1958 Alfa Romeo Giulietta 1960 MG MGA 1966 MG MGB	Posted: July 13, 2012 05:47AM Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 23,301

...I kno how ya feel...a very touching story...yer a good man sly....in spite of yerself.... sad smiley

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Re: My co worker and friend Carmen #4
kwinzee Ron Weber Hamilton, Ontario, Canada 1972 MG MGB GT "Struggles" 1976 MG MGB "Knute" 2007 Chevrolet Trailblazer "Gray Whale"	Posted: July 13, 2012 06:00AM Registered: 3 years ago Posts: 5,618

Steve, life isn't always what you think it should be. You are a good man. I lost my dad to cancer over 8 years ago and know the hardships people go through. I'd like to wish you and your wife all the best.

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Re: My co worker and friend Carmen #5
JackMG Jack Lindler Greenville,SC, USA	Posted: July 13, 2012 06:04AM Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 14,907

Steve, I am sorry for your loss. Some people come into your life and leave an big impression like that, and it's hard to see them go. I moved to Greenville from Columbia in 1971 at age 27. Moved in next door to a guy from St Louis, and we became fast friends - every weekend we do things around our houses together. When the Arab oil embargo drove up heating oil prices, we rented an insulation blower and put a ton of insulation in our attic, then put roll batts under the floors together. Worked on cars together - my MGs, his Mustangs. Ten years later he became hoarse and after many tests it was found he had advanced lung cancer. Several years later, his wife went the same way. That's when I quit smoking at age 50. When he was sick, I began to realize, he was more like a brother to me than my own brother. It was really hard to see him go.

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Re: My co worker and friend Carmen #6
don4975 Don don4975 Rockville, Rockville, MD, USA 1970 MG MGB "Biscuit" 1970 MG MGB	Posted: July 13, 2012 06:17AM Registered: 8 years ago Posts: 4,497

Sly a very moving paragraph to sum up a friendship.

Sorry for your loss.

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Re: My co worker and friend Carmen #7
scoutll Bryan Durham North Dakota, USA 1965 Chrysler 300 ""Annie""	Posted: July 13, 2012 08:04AM Registered: 4 years ago Posts: 2,747

Nice words.

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britcars Phil Ossinger Fredericton, New Brunswick, Canada 1977 MG MGB V8 Conversion	Posted: July 13, 2012 12:13PM Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 1,839

Steve, so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend and co-worker. Reading this comes at a particularly bad time for me too. I have a friend of thirty years in the last stages of cancer and just learned Tuesday that my son's father-in-law has been diagnosed with bone cancer. He is starting treatment today. Tough times ahead.

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Re: My co worker and friend Carmen #9
Jim Gevay Circle Pines, MN, USA 1974 MG MGB	Posted: July 13, 2012 12:53PM Registered: 5 years ago Posts: 1,598

Sorry to hear about your friend Steve.
Sometimes people who lead very quiet and unassuming lives leave the biggest mark on other people.
We're all better for knowing them.
I hope your wife is doing better, Jim

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Re: My co worker and friend Carmen #10
Steve64B Steve Opitz Phoenix, AZ, USA 1966 MG MGB	Posted: July 13, 2012 02:52PM Registered: 6 years ago Posts: 8,487

Steve, that the best eulogy a man could ask for… you’re a good man.

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Re: My co worker and friend Carmen #11
magnette1 Andrew Murdoch Busselton, W.A., Australia 1956 MG Magnette ZA 1973 MG MGB GT 1977 Ford Escort 2010 Suzuki MC DL650 V-Strom	Posted: July 13, 2012 06:59PM Registered: 4 years ago Posts: 1,343

Steve,
Those emotions shown are a true stamp of who you are and Carmen would have approved.

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Re: My co worker and friend Carmen #12
slywelder Steve Yandoli new york, USA	Posted: July 13, 2012 07:43PM Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 3,577

In reply to # 2119335 by magnette1 Steve,
Those emotions shown are a true stamp of who you are and Carmen would have approved.

Thanks Andrew and to all. Im no saint never was and never will be and i dont deserve some of the nice things you guys said and to be honest thats not why i posted. It just gets me so down that this guy never got to enjoy retirement,his family. My wife goes for her next cat scan next week and its also been on my mind. On another note and i just want to change the subject i went to the stripper's today (not that kind but now that i think of it maybe tieing a load on and wasteing a bunch of dollar bills aint a bad idea)anyway the car looked good. Its amazing to see whats roted whats not and it does make the panel repalcement seem easier now that you see everything. The guy i used is super delicate and he chemically striped the car first. He had me strip the doors and hood myself to save some money and now he will blast them all over. Car goes to the body guy tomorrow and it takes me away from everything on my mind. I'll keep you informed

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